Disagree Gracefully

There are moments in our day to day life when you have a conflict with someone. Sometimes it may be more powerful than you. He may be your biggest customer. He might be some officer in your big customer's company. He might be your superior. There are situations when they tell you something and there is no option but to disagree. Disagreeing to their thoughts is not a crime. But how you do it will define whether it is the right way. Many a times there are things when we know what we are saying is right, but it matters more on how you say it. You might be at the other end of the problem too. There might be someone who you know is right in his place, but the way he has put things has not gone down too well with you. 

Similar things happen. It is okay to disagree; but sometimes the situation is very difficult. The other person may not want to hear 'No'. There is a classical example of Steve Jobs being too demanding. Many of his staffers thought that his demands were unreasonable. He looked for great designs, simplicity in use and perfection. Until he achieved it, he won't let go any body. Behind that there were different thoughts that he would be going through, which his staffers were absolutely not aware. They were simply in denying mode to whatever was suggested by Steve Jobs. This is the reason why before we disagree, we should have thought about it fully. We should know that the person before us might have thought about several aspect before coming to these suggestions. He might have known several facts which you do not know. 

Therefore, it makes sense that when you disagree, you may as well take the permission of that person to put some of the reason why you think that the suggestions given by you are not possible. If he is open about it, he will allow you to tell your suggestions and even be encouraging to hear from you. But if his situation itself is non-negotiable, then it might not be a good idea to disagree. Many things started with a no, but were possible because of thought of other men who thought, 'YES, THAT IS POSSIBLE'.