Spoon Feeding OR Teaching?

I had once heard a story / joke of a race where three little children were participating. One was American, Other was Japanese while the third was an Indian. The children were very small, may be about year and a half or so. There mothers were besides them. The three children had to complete the race one by one. It was a small distance. First the American child went. Midway it fell. American mother asserted, 'Get up and go' and the child got up and walked and completed the race. Then it was Japanese mother's turn. The Japanese child too stumbled midway. The Japanese mother ran to the other end and called her child 'Come on, Baby'. Seeing the mother, the child went up to her and completed the race. Then it was the third child's turn. The third child started and fell midway. It began crying. Immediately, the Indian mother came, picked up the child and ran with it to complete the race. 

There are teaching methods. Sometimes, we get too emotional. There are two things, spoon feeding and teaching how to eat. I hate the first thing - Spoon feeding. Spoon feeding is there where someone is dependent on you. It will not eat nor will learn to eat. It is a different matter, too young child or too old people or patients, have their own problems. I would love to spoon feed them. But, for others they know that they can eat themselves. But they are not willing to do that. They are more than happy that they are spoon-fed and they do not have any inclination to learn how to eat. Giving alms to beggar, I consider, is one such thing. Personally, I hate giving alms to beggars. But sometimes, I find myself helpless seeing the person in front. 

I would rather help them get employment or do something fruitful. Something, with which they can actually earn money and learn to eat themselves. This aspect is very important as the other person's dependability on others comes to an end. Even if I am not there tomorrow, others should be capable of eating by themselves.